Monday, May 13, 2013

Most Common Questions I Get Asked As A Hijabi!

Through out the years I have worn my hijab, I have encountered many funny, but sincere questions. I thought I’d share the most common questions, to provide you gals with some answers, incase you get asked similar questions!

Why do you wear “that”?
This is probably my favorite question to get asked, because it lets me explain myself! I wear my scarf because I’m a proud practicing Muslim.

Surah an-Nur ayah 31 says:
"And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their beauty except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful."

Surah al-Ahzab ayah 59 says:
"O Prophet! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the faithful to draw their outergarments (jilbabs) close around themselves; that is better that they will be recognized and not annoyed. And God is ever Forgiving, Gentle."

Together, these two ayahs lay out seven commandments for Muslim sisters:

1."to lower their gazes"
2."to guard their private parts"
3."not to display their beauty except what is apparent of it"
4."to extend their headcoverings to cover their bosoms"
5."not to display their beauty except to their husbands or their fathers..."
6."not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide"
7."to draw their outergarments close around themselves"
Hijab is not just the head scarf, it is the whole outfit. You have to dress according to the Islamic dress code topped off with the headscarf! Sadly, some hijabis just think hijab is just the headscarf, so they don't dress modestly. 
I wear my hijab because I want people to judge me for my personality, beliefs, and morals, not my looks. I DON’T wear hijab because of cultural purposes, I was born in America! I get respected as a person when I wear my hijab. The purpose of Hijab is for women to hide their beauty from the eye of the public. Why should I show my  beauty to people I don’t know? 

Here is a story about Muhammad Ali’s talk to his daughter about Hijab.

The following incident took place when Muhammad Ali's daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were not modest. Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:

When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father's suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, "Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them."

He looked at me with serious eyes. "Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too." Source: Taken from the book: More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali's Life Lessons Through His Daughter's Eyes.

Are you forced to wear “that”?

Contrary to stereotypical beliefs, I am NOT forced to wear my scarf! It is 100% my decision to do so!

Do you get hot with “that”?
Of course, like any other human being, I do get hot sometimes. What some people don’t realize is that hijabis have different options for warmer whether. During the spring and summer we wear lighter fabrics and scarfs, this helps with the heat

Can you hear?
I’m sorry, could you repeat that again? Of course I can hear! Can you see when you wear sunglasses? Yes! Well my hijab works the same way, it is thin enough for sound waves to pass through!

Do you sleep with “that”?
Only if I am sleeping in a public area, at home I am free to sleep without my scarf.

Do you have hair? What does it look like?
No, I’m bald which is why I wear a scarf to cover it. Of course I have hair, but I personally choose to cover it, because it part of my beauty. And for those of you asking me what my hair looks like, it is hot pink with purple streaks (said sarcastically). If I have chosen to cover up my hair, don’t you think it defeats the purpose if I tell you what it looks like?

How long to you have to wear “that”?
Pretty much until I die!

Do you wash your hair?
No, I just don’t look at my hair in the mirror, and spray perfume to hide the smell. I wash my hair like any other person would.

Do you have to wear that at home?
No, the only time I wear my scarf at home is if there are people of the opposite sex that are not related to me. Other than that I am free to take my scarf off!

Overall, I enjoy getting different questions from people, even if they are silly! It reminds me of the purpose of my hijab and choice to embrace it! I hope this helped some of you, and feel free to ask more questions in the comments below!

Stay Modest, Stay Stylish!

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1 comment:

  1. Wisdom words! I hear everyday, people asking this questions and others (not hijabi related but muslim related) like "Can you drink during Ramadan?! "Can you at least chew chewing-gum?" "If during Ramadan you hide somewhere and eat, nothing bad will happen, uh?"

    Really, really, dumb questions.
    Loved the fact that you added in the article sureh and that beautiful comparison between muslim girl and nuns :)))))
    Eyd Mubarak from Morocco!